Here is talk about learning to be single again after the death of a partner.

Think of it this way: we  learned to be married, learned to live as a couple, learned to follow the script of our very couples-defined society.

With bereavement came new expectations,  new assignments thrust upon us, like it or not. So we feel and think and behave to fit new roles. The hopes and plans we have for ourselves may or may not fit what we and others have in mind.

All this requires new learning. The old habits may not fit. New status needs different responses. That’s the learning opportunity. The “new” is being single again. The “old” is all the people and places we know well. And the couples-oriented society. The “learning” is how we mamage our changes, or not.

I’ve found that taking a learning approach works well in getting  a grip on the new ways of thinking and acting. So read here about what others have learned, want to learn and how they learned it – real people relate their own experiences of becoming single.

Most of my postings, at first anyway, are conversations with older persons, most brief. Many are retired, children not living at home – the people I most often meet. I’ll broaden out as time goes by.

Yes, I’ve changed names, places and other identifiers to protect the privacy of those sharing here.